cynic?

last year, i remember vividly.. i was a hopeless romantic.. i believed so much in love that i am sure i used to really tick some people off with my fairy tale ideals.. i remember in my teens, reading was like a fashion fad.. we started from baby sitters club to nancy drew, the Hardy boys.. and finally to the famous "mills and boons"... it was the trend of my teenage years... romantic literature that made us build castles in the air.. we believed so much in the fantasy that they created, a knight in shining armour riding on a white horse, coming to save his beautiful princess and living happily ever after...hmmmmm..... we practically lived the dream...
now though, my teenage years far gone, it still took a while to begin to understand that such fantasies are just that...fantasies.. there is no knight in shining armour, there is no white horse. I think it just hit me last year actually. i wouldn't say i am a cynic, i am just a realist. Men are just human beings, they make mistakes, they fart, use the toilet, sometimes have smelly breath... they have almost the same fears as we do.. fear of failing.. fear of being rejected and all that... just like us... and guess what, sometimes they also need rescuing...
They are not mythical creatures that we should put on a pedastal... they are just men... lets treat them like that, be real with them... develop a friendship with them and stop building castles in the air even before they say hi to you.
Most importantly though, i have realised that what we idolise can actually break us, simple question, can you tell whan someone treats you like a demi-god?, figures that you can do no evil? i know i can .. and guess what, it pisses the hell out of me. I prefer guys who start out as my friend... don't psyche (for lack of a better word) me, don't even try to wine and dine me.. just be my friedn and be there for me.. and it'll be a pleasant suprise when i find out that you like me "that way" and no.. i am not talking playing mind games (friends don't play mind games...duuuuhh?)
so don't worship or over-pamper a man that hasn't put a ring on your finger yet, be real with him... and burn all thos castles that you have built... before someone else does...