do i?

do i ignite your fire... sometimes i wonder about the fixation about sex and all that goes with it..
don't get me wrong, i think sex is beautiful... within the confines for which it was meant... marriage. sex outside of marriage may seem sweet for the whole of 5 minutes but hey... lets look at the flip side of the coin...
girl meets boy...boy meets girl, they get on and there is some form of chemistry, it starts from the little touches here and there and then they stumble unto soft sheets(i think it goes like that... )
now the relationship hasn't been defined... in the girls eyes at least, she waits for some form of definition and the man stalls... wondering why.. should anything be defined... the girl feels used, her confidence feels like left over bread that is all mildewy and rock hard... the man feels good (i think it's a male ego thing for guys...lol)
now this is where the struggle begins for women, sex is not just sex.. it goes deeper than that, for niaja women.. or should i say from my small world, sex is associated with love for us, we don't actually engage in the act except we actually love or are close to loving the guy (of course there are exceptions where this isn't the case) but for guys its different.
thats where sometimes we shoot ourselves in the foot, we tend to think men think like us but i think we should wake up and smell the hot coffee... they just don't... sex is just that for them ( a majority of them anyways)
there is no fast and hard rule for this but i think that one of the major selling points for us is the ability to hold out when they can't seem to...